Tools for Parents: Understanding Sensory Anxiety in Kids
If you’re a parent, you’ve probably dealt with sensory anxiety at some point. Hair brushing, clothing tags, loud noises, baths and even certain foods can all create sensory distress for children. Let’s explore two important questions: Is this normal? and What can I do to help?
Is Sensory Anxiety Normal?
Yes, in many cases it is. Sensory sensitivities are extremely common in childhood, especially as kids encounter new sensations that their brains are still learning to process.
Maybe your preschooler avoids hand dryers in public restrooms. Your daughter refuses an itchy dress. Your child gags when a particular texture of food hits their tongue. These reactions can all be part of typical development.
But when sensitivities are intense or begin to disrupt daily routines, they may indicate a need for additional support.
When Sensory Challenges Need Attention
Sensory reactivity can show up on its own or in the context of other conditions:
Autism Spectrum Disorder
Significant sensory responses are part of the restricted and repetitive behavior criteria.
ADHD
Impulsivity and emotional regulation challenges can heighten sensory reactivity.
Anxiety Disorders
Kids with anxiety often have a more reactive nervous system, making sensations feel more intense.
How to Know When to Seek Help
Ask yourself how much sensory reactions are affecting your child’s life and your family’s routines.
Consider seeking help if your child’s sensitivities are causing:
• Very strong behavioral reactions
• Frequent changes in clothing, socks or routines to avoid discomfort
• Stress during daily tasks like bathing, brushing hair or eating
• Avoidance of many textures, sounds or sensations
• Growing limitations on participation in school, activities or family life
A child psychologist can assess the underlying causes, provide guidance and refer to occupational therapy when appropriate. Support can help families understand their child’s unique nervous system and build strategies that reduce distress. Learn more about services like Anxiety Treatment and Parent Behavioral Training
Parenting Tools for Sensory Sensitivity
1. Choose one target goal and stay consistent
Pick a small, meaningful goal your child can work toward. For example, with support, your child will shower and wash their hair every other day.
2. Practice during low-stress times
Children do better when they’re calm. Practice wearing the school uniform on a weekend or trying a new food when no one is rushed.
3. Model communication and problem-solving
Teach your child what to say in difficult moments. Model this yourself when choosing clothes or foods.
4. Avoid engaging in meltdowns or arguments
Stay calm and use brief supportive statements like, “I know this feels hard, and I know you can handle it.”
5. Use distraction and play
Make routines playful. Create games while getting dressed or turn the bathroom into a pretend spa appointment.
6. Praise effort, not perfection
Highlight what your child did well, even if the routine was difficult.
Accepting Differences and Encouraging Growth
Sensory differences are real and valid, and accommodations are a meaningful way to support your child’s nervous system. When sensitivities begin to limit daily life, gentle exposure to mild discomfort can help the nervous system adapt. This is not about changing who your child is. It is about helping them feel safer and more confident so that more of the world becomes accessible to them, including bathing, dressing, exploring different environments and eating a wider variety of foods.
Want Guidance?
If sensory anxiety is shaping your daily life, you don’t have to figure it out alone. I help families understand their child’s sensory needs, build confidence and restore workable routines.
Book a free call to explore evaluation or therapy. Available online in 42 states and in-person in Jacksonville, FL.
